It’s Ok to be Selfish

Hey guys! I hope you’ve all had a great weekend ūüôā One thing that’s been on my mind a lot lately is selfishness. The way we as a society define it, the way we view it, the way we judge it. I’ve really struggled in the past 8 or so months with guilt about whether or not I’ve been selfish. According to good ‘ol Google, selfish can be defined as “lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure.” The question that’s been playing over and over in my head recently is, “Have I only been thinking of myself and what’s best for me?” I’ve come to the conclusion that the answer is yes and no. I have spent most of my life thinking about how my actions may impact others, which isn’t necessarily bad. It becomes a problem when you start ignoring your own needs. I’ve talked in some of my previous posts about my fear of letting people down and my constant need to make everyone else happy.¬†When you start saying yes to everyone else and no to yourself, you will eventually deplete yourself of everything you have to give.¬†Think about it this way. If you had a basket full of food, and you gave one person¬†a small bite and you gave a little more to someone else and you gave a lot to another friend because they asked for it, pretty soon you’d have no food left in your basket. You gave it all away before eating any yourself. Would anyone find it selfish if you ate some of your own food in order to keep yourself healthy and therefore be in better condition to help others? NO! It is completely expected. So let’s stop using “selfish” as a dirty word. It’s not always a bad thing. In fact, it can be a great thing! Over the past few months¬†I’ve slowly started to feel ok about being “selfish”. Taking the time to really get to know yourself and what you want can be life changing. Think about all the opportunities that can present themselves if you know what you’re looking for and where to look! So, next time¬†you feel like you need to take some time to step away and focus on yourself, that’s not wrong. If you think it’s best to remove yourself from a situation, relationship, friendship, ect., you do not have to justify that to anyone else. You know yourself better than anyone. As much as I believe it is important to help others, it is EQUALLY important to help yourself. As you go through this week, I challenge you to do at least one thing for you! Remember,¬†it¬†is ok to take care of yourself!

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